FOMO: Is It Ruling Your Life?


There is now a very real mental health risk associated with our fear of missing out. The rise of social media, booming technology and our constant ‘connectedness’, is contributing to rises in anxiety, depression, self-doubt, compromised confidence and changes in our social behaviours and communication.

I switched off & learnt to shut down the FOMO!

I am not immune to this new phenomenon, using daily social media to stay connected with friends, family and business. It’s actually BECAUSE of SOCIAL MEDIA, I can have friends all over the country & my business can flourish.

Social Media is not evil or the enemy, it just needs to NOT be used at the expense of true “real life” connections. Have you ever looked at your screentime on your device?


You might want to take a little look! You might be surprised at how much of your day, week, month is actually used on your device!! I WAS!!!! And some (well lets face it!) a lot of time, was at the expense of time with my family & my mental health!

I found myself:

✘ committing to things I didn’t want to do

✘spending money I didn’t have

✘surrounding myself with people I really didn’t want to be with

✘using social media to escape feelings or kids

✘wasting countless hours scrolling through a news feed I really couldn’t tell you what was on it!!



I was to go from 8pm Friday Night till 7.30pm Sunday night, with no social media! Why the odd hours? Why not a full 48 hours?

I had a facebook live training scheduled for 7.30pm on the Sunday Night and I didn’t want to miss out!!!!!!!!!

Can you see it? Yes, I set a challenge to prove that FOMO didn’t rule my life and without realising (until now) the parameter was set around my fear of missing out!!!

Now this challenge was not easy, don’t get me wrong! I found my finger hovering over the facebook button a number of times. Once or twice, I even hit the button, however I closed it before it had a chance to load.

Another, time I was chatting to hubby, when I looked down and facebook had loaded. I had no recollection of tapping the App. However, there it was sitting open and I HAD NO IDEA HOW. Again I closed it without looking at anything.

Or the time I sat thinking “if I jump on hubby’s phone and facebook no-one will know I broke my challenge” (It was only a thought – I didn’t look!).

What have I achieved? A realisation about how much I rely on that little app, to fill time, distract my mind and feel connected to my world! How I had lost the ability to connect with myself and my world around me, to be ok with being with me!

And GUESS WHAT? It’s 12pm on Monday Morning and I am yet to actually open facebook – YES I missed my live training – I’ll watch the replay! I’ve survived 64+ hours without social media and I haven’t missed out, the world has not ended, the walls didn’t fall in!!!!!!!

So what did I learn?

“Nature is good for the soul”

Saturday morning was spent bush walking with my husband. Watching him take photos of the waterfall & nature, enjoying his company, conversation & photography passion. There was something about being still and taking time out, that allowed me space to learn to be okay with being quite & with myself!

This time out provided invaluable lessons:

“There is clarity in the calm”

“Sometimes we surround ourselves with ‘busy’, because we don’t want to be with ourselves”

“Connecting with those we love, can help us remember how to love ourselves”

“Being with yourself is hard, but very necessary. It brings understanding, strength & guidance”

“We need to listen to both what people say & don’t say – there is a beautiful space in between the words – where peace can be found”

“Being truly present takes time & practice – without guilt!”

“We cannot simply do all the stuff – all the time and this is OK”

“Life happens everyday, every moment NOT TO US – we need to live it”

“Each new breath is a new beginning – you can start again & again multiple times daily”

“There is a beautiful strength in vulnerability & accepting what is, letting go of what was & having faith it what’s to come”

What’s this challenge changed? I have made a promise to myself, to alter the way I use social media. To remember to switch off regularly and be gentle with myself! Because I am human, a work in progress. Sometimes I’ll get it wrong, THAT’s OK!!! I may just need to remind myself, of all the benefits I tell others about self care & mindfulness.


What’s affecting your children’s behaviour?

Diet, Lifestyle and Environment can all have an impact on children’s behaviour. 

If your child displays behaviours such as:
 Difficulties with concentration & memory
 Fidgeting and restlessness
 Anxiety and/or depression
 Constantly disrupts others
 Compulsive behaviours
 Difficulties completing tasks
 Aggressive displays
 Defiant behaviour

The following information is for you!

The 5 Major players impacting children’s behaviour are:

* Diet

* Nutrient Deficiencies

* Sleep

* Nature Deficit

* Environmental factors


🍭Refined carbohydrates & added sugars
🍨Additives, preservatives, colours, flavour enhancers, artificial sweeteners
🍟 Trans fats found in highly processed and take-away foods
🌱Natural chemicals in foods like salicylates, amines & glutamates
🌾 Food intolerances
🥑 Not eating enough good quality fats
🍗 Not eating enough quality protein
🥦 Not eating enough vegetables (very few children get the recommended daily serves)
🍓 Not eating the recommended daily serves of fruit
🥙 Not eating regularly

2) NUTRIENT DEFICIENCIES can have a real impact on behaviour. We all require vitamins and minerals in conjunction with protein, fat and carbohydrates to live – it’s what fuels our body,  what builds & nourishes our cells & tissues!

When children are deficient in nutrients, their body does not obtain the vital components needed for growth, repair and development, along with the vital nutrients for metabolic processes and chemical reactions within the body – leading to the symptoms displayed in children’s behavioural issues.

For example:

* Zinc deficiencies have been linked to poor memory & concentration, along with reduced sense of smell and taste.
* Omega 3 deficiencies have been linked to anxiety, inattention, hyperactivity and impulsivity .
* Iron deficiencies have been linked to attention and mood imbalances, hyperactivity and impaired socialisation
* Magnesium deficiencies have been linked to cognitive delays, fatigue, headaches and anxiety

These are just a few of the deficiencies that may impact children’s behaviour. If children are not eating a varied healthy diet and obtaining their recommended daily servings of protein, fats, carbohydrates, vegetables & fruit, they are at risk of deficiencies.

3)  SLEEP!

A lack of sleep, whether it be due to late nights, early mornings, disrupted sleep, nightmares, dreams, anxiety, restlessness or another factor, can have detrimental effects on children’s behaviour.

😴 Inadequate sleep (too short or poor quality) can cause changes in mood and thinking, leading to:
 An inability to regulate moods, resulting in heightened reactions to seemingly minor events
 Greater tendency to dwell on negative thoughts, interactions or activities rather than on positive aspects of life
Greater deficits in attention and the ability to concentrate and remember
 Reduced ability to reason and problem solve
 A higher tendency towards anxious or withdrawn behaviours

Implementing positive sleep practices can create major changes in children’s behaviour. Sleep hygiene analysis and changes, often form part of my treatment plans with positive results.


Green -time instead of screen time!!!!  Outside play is so important to children’s behaviour and overall health! 

Lack of exposure to outside play and an increase in inside screen-time play, has been linked to:

 hyperactivity in children
 anti-social behaviour and reduced social interaction between children
 reductions in cognitive awareness
 reduced abilities to concentrate & reduced memory function
 reductions in fine and gross motor skills
 reductions in balance & co-ordination
 Increases in mental health conditions like anxiety, stress, depression and insomnia
 Increased weight gain & rises in type 2 diabetes
 Poor gut health and an increase in chronic health conditions

Just 30 minutes a day (1 hour is best) outside play can benefit children’s physical and mental wellbeing:

 Reducing hyperactivity, fidgeting and impulsivity
 Improving anxiety and depression
 Improving sleep
 Improving energy
 Improving social interaction
 Improving appetite, diet & nutrient absorption
 Improving co-ordination, self-awareness & observational skills
 Improving concentration and memory
Improving gut health & helping to reduce chronic health conditions


So what should you be looking out for in your environment, that could be effecting your child?

🔸Cleaning chemicals
🔸Body products (soaps, moisturisers, etc)
🔸Air polltants
🔸Gardening supplies ( they contain harmful chemicals liek glyphosate found in Round Up)
🔸Heavy metals (eg lead & mercury)
🔸Medications (over the counter and prescription – some medications can’t be avoided, it is important to be aware of side-effects associated with medications)
🔸Hand sanitisers and other sanitising products

Our skin is our largest organ and absorbs hundreds of chemicals daily, which may effect our children’s health and increase the risk of:

🔸Anxiety & depression
🔸Hormonal disruptions
🔸Compromised gut integrity, leading to leaky gut
🔸Poor nutrient deficiencies and absorption
🔸Poor cognitive development
🔸Behavioral and learning difficulties
🔸Impacts on neurological development
🔸Poor Growth and development

I hope this post has given you some insight into the different influences on children’s behaviour. Making changes is not an overnight process and can seem like a daunting process. All of the areas discussed, are assessed in my consultations and form part of my individualised treatment plans – we tackle these changes together, in a way that suits your family.